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Tip 75 Management of Internal Cues
Dont make the mistake of thinking that internal cues are a specific type of marching order to action that should be taken at face value. If we are suddenly angered by someone who forgets to make promised call, for example, we will likely think that we are able to identify our internal cues - anger, hurt, feelings of betrayal - quite easily. The problem is that we are likely to link these internal cues mostly or entirely to the action of the person who has not called. We think that we experience unpleasant internal cues because of something that someone has done to us. We may even think that these internal cues should be acted on in certain ways. We may think that we need to express our anger at the non-caller through confrontation. This is a classic example of the way that most of us use internal cues.
Determining what people want from their life is essential to the recovery process. Once a person recognizes what is important they are better able to focus their energies in this areas. |
